Memorial Weekend

Our weekends are usually filled with craziness. I am going here and there, Chad is almost always headed in a different direction and we meet back for dinner. This weekend was totally different, and I LOVED it. Chad got off work pretty late on Friday, but that didn't stop us. We met at my dad's to clean out his gutters. This was a task. I had never cleaned gutters and, oh boy, I don't want to do it again. YUCK! We got through it though and I know it helped Dad and Vicki a lot. I am so happy that they call when they need something. I want to help so bad, but there usually isn't anything I can do. We are happy to help. We were supposed to lay flooring at my father in laws house, but since Chad didn't get off until 7:30 it was late when we finished the gutters and hanging out at my dad's. We still went to his house and hung out for about an hour. I have to say, when Chad and I started dating his dad and I didn't have the best relationship. This has changed so much and I really enjoy his company.

On Saturday and Sunday we got up early to lay some landscaping bricks around the backyard. We got more than we thought done and I am thrilled. It's not close to done, but it's a great start. For anyone that knows me well, you know that I don't do manual labor - AT ALL! I laughed and told him that he should take a picture, there is not way either of our mom's would believe this!

We cleaned the house on Sunday after landscaping and had our neighbors, mom, and grandparents over for a cookout. It was a good time. We got to relax and just enjoy everyone's company.

Monday we finally got to do the flooring at his dad's house. That was an experience. The first two rows took longer to do than the last 15 they did. They are both very impatient. I sat back and laughed when I got there. Finally they got in a groove and it started going smoothly. We will be going back to finish. He has a couple things to do before we can finish.

Again, none of this is like me! I do not lift things, sit outside, or sweat. It was amazing to me how I didn't mind doing any of this as long as my wonderful husband was doing it along side of me. It was fun to work so hard together. I know I didn't do half as much as him, but he did say that I did a lot more than he expected!

Staying busy was a good thing for me this weekend. It helped keep my mind off my brother. He has now been in the hospital for a week. I have thought about him so much this last week. He had so much fluid in his lungs. They were empty on Saturday, but more fluid came up on Monday. I believe he is having a surgery today to get a tube put in that he can use at home to release the fluid. I sure hope he gets to go home where he is comfortable. We are all praying for him here at home and are so worried about it. Today I realize that maybe he doesn't know how much I think about him and care about him. I do not call him, because I don't want to wake him or bother him. I just send a text here and there to let him know I am here and hopefully get an update on his condition. I am going to start calling him more often to check on him and let him know I am thinking of him. I am shooting for daily or every other day. I hope he doesn't mind, I just want to have the most up to date information and help anyway I can. It's hard being so far away, but there is definitely a piece of my heart down in that hospital room. I hope he knows that!

Of course, after having this wonderful weekend the devil tried to sneak in. He couldn't stand the great time Chad and I had together. He put doubts in my mind about Chad and I. It was very odd, because that has never happened before. I was sitting there around the fire we had on Sunday night and it was just Chad and I. We were sitting across from each other so I asked him to move next to me. We met in the middle and were sitting there. I started getting upset because we were just sitting there, not holding hands or really talking. I starting thinking - does he really love me? Again, I have NEVER had these thoughts before. I prayed for a second asking God what this was about and to show me how we can communicate better, etc. I want our marriage to be the best it can be and I know God is right there with us. I asked God to show both of us what we can do to make it better. Right after I got done praying Chad put the fire out because the grass was getting too hot - we have to put pavers under the pit. We went inside and laid on the couch together. He put his arm around me and we laid there watching TV. I realized that we do love eachother - a lot. We are a more mature couple and sometimes just sitting together is enough. We worked so hard together all weekend, we had fun, we joked, we accomplished a lot. Why would I doubt what we have? God has shown me many little things since that night and I realized how much he does value me. Even though he doesn't say it every minute, he does love me. He shows me by the little things he does for me. My marriage is great and I love him more than anything else on earth.

God is good!